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'I have not stuck an eye', Juan Legaz Palomares

11 July 2020 - 08: 27

What should be exceptional has become habitual. Today parents before their children when they reach puberty or adolescence, are the whip that lashes their outdated whims. Meanwhile, the parents go crazy spending sleepless nights when their children leave "March", because nowadays most choose the night to have fun, stuff themselves with drinks and whatever else.

Dialogue, education and example I believe are the fundamental pillars to improve the behavior of our children, which will strengthen them humanly, morally and mentally. Adolescents do not usually react to our words, but to our actions. Speeches bore them, overwhelm them, provoke sterile confrontations.

We must choose the right place, the right time and the right message. It is advisable to be silent when the other needs to speak. None of this is at odds with freedom or authority.

Understanding should be mutual. Sometimes I think that it could be more balanced, without being so influenced by the age difference and they understood that not all our advice is against them.

My son / daughter! How many nights I spend restless, without sleep, waiting for you to arrive! I wonder every moment, where will he be? Will he be okay? Has something happened to him? The answer is: "more restlessness." When sleep overcomes me with exhaustion, when I wake up I run quickly to your bed to check if you have returned. If, in the meantime, your arrival occurs, I endure misunderstanding, undeserved insults and inconsistencies. I follow the guidelines that my heart dictates, for my love towards you. We are two paths found but faced: lack of dialogue ?, understanding ?, respect ?, trust ?.

I am not your enemy, but your friend. I intend, from my love and experience, to teach you, educate you and help you for the future life. I don't have the magic wand to solve all your problems, but I do have the love that tries to find a reasonable and satisfactory solution for both of you.

If I'm doing something wrong, let's sit down and fix it, but I can't continue "Without sticking an eye", with this anxiety every time you go on “march”, because I am losing my life little by little, without not a glimpse of your attitude that your attitude can be somewhat more understanding, and even if it is in part, alleviate the ailments of my sleepless nights. In short, today, being parents is perhaps the most difficult profession to perform.

I'm waiting for parents to tell me: “I don't have that problem. I sleep soundly (the expression is worth it) ”.

Juan Legaz Palomares.

Comments
  1. Marco Ortiz says:

    Strongly agree, it is difficult to set limits and understand them. More now with the pandemic.

  2. Pedro says:

    Already !!! Now in the Golden Paradis the bottle is made in an apartment! Like last night 4 posh kids got drunk until 3am! The Popes and Mamas was not there and the police passed like nothing!


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